Since the time I joined the military, my demeanor, intelligence, wisdom, and courage have slowly, but steadily improved. I can say without a doubt, that if I wouldn't have gotten away from my parents, I would have amounted to nothing; and this is sadly true for many of the children of the Baby Boomer generation.
It stands firm that Generation X, and Millennials are extremely immature as adults -- this is apparent in the statistics on marriages and family; as it is by the family and the raising of children, that a man and woman reach the final stage of adult hood, and truly learn how to be responsible. As the Baby Boomers like to do, I cannot lay the blame of the decline of western morality on the shoulders of the subsequent generations. After all, Baby Boomers raised them, and it was the Baby Boomers who failed them.
The greatest sin of the Baby Boomers was raising children primarily based on economic ambition. When I was a child, I was endlessly told that I was a "winner." I was sent off to schools to be indoctrinated by the state, and forced into religious institutions to learn about God from people other than my family. My parents didn't raise me. Strangers did. As a result, I grew to despise them all.
I learned nothing of real value from my parents. Sure they provided for me, and taught me the basics of functioning as a decent economic man of the Earth; I am grateful for at least that much. But, that was it; I never even got the birds & bees talk until I was a sophomore in high school. I was never taught to pursue and desire a woman as wife, start a family, and have children; I wasn't taught anything about faith -- God, Jesus, the Ten Commandments; I wasn't taught to flee from a degenerate society that would ultimately lead to the unhappiness that plagued me for years. An unhappiness that had me contemplating suicide far too often; from the time of high school to even after the military.
Even now, I still suffer from the failure of my parents to teach me anything other than arbitrary, nonsense words. What is a winner? Why am I a winner? I was only a child, and then a young man, simply existing with no real goals or ambitions. I was not taught that to be a true "winner" one must have God. For years, I thought the purpose of life was to get a good job, make money, then retire.
What utter nonsense that all is. Man was not made to pursue currency. Currency is nothing but the credit of completed, or promised labor. Currency is simply a means to an end. It is not the purpose. To serve God, to labor for yield -- wife, children, food -- to raise a family. That is the purpose of life. That is how I wish my parents would have raised me.
I honestly cannot recall a single teaching of concrete worth given to me
by my parents. I learned discipline from the military, and I learned
how to be a man from the Word of God, and those friends, and leaders
whom were older than I. Further, my parents have no I idea who I am
today. My father refuses to see me as a man; he calls me immature,
easily swayed, and prone to worshiping others. My mother sees me as some
sort of extremist who is too forward in speaking the truth, as I see
it; she would have me be nice, not daring to offend. My parents continue
to lecture down at me instead of realizing that they had 18 years to do
so. They failed in that regard; as did many parents of Gen X, and Y. I
surpassed them in this understanding, long ago.
This is the sad reality of my own upbringing, and further, the upbringings of the generations X, and Y. Our parents, for whatever reason, sent us off to be raised by people who were not themselves. They endeared to provide for us with their economic inclinations, but left us spiritually and morally desolate. We were failed. Now, we must do for ourselves what our parents could not.
I still love my parents, of course. As commands God and His 5th Commandment. And I am grateful that I was raised at least as well as I was. But, this does not excuse them. Doing the bare minimum is not good enough. My father did not teach me how to act as a man of God, and how to lead. My mother did not teach me how to treat a woman, or to be wary of the dangers of women.
I will be the father that I wish I had. I will marry the woman who will be the mother I wish I had. I will raise my children how I wish I had been raised. I will be my children's teacher, as will my wife, the mother of my children. It is the parents -- not the state, not the stranger -- who must teach their children. It is my solemn purpose to raise children worthy of He who is the Beginning and the End.
By God all things are, and by God I shall live.
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